Quickie Soapbox: The Waah-Waah Brigade
There’s a disturbing pattern I’ve been seeing in some breastfeeding/birth/natural parenting spaces. Whenever attention is brought to a website, group or article that centers the experiences of persons of color, the “Waah-Waah Brigade” comes out to play.
Members of this brigade are always offended that there are spaces that prioritize the experiences of persons of color above white persons. They manage to derail otherwise productive discussions with the same tired statements to support their supposed feelings of being offended.
“If there was a White XYZ Association then it would be called racist.”
“I’m tired of having to cater to other communities, it just fosters racism.”
“Why are you segregating yourselves?”
Listen up, Waah-Waah Brigade:
We’re tired of your warped definitions of racism.
We’re tired of hearing your accusations that rely on the logic of false equivalence.
We’re tired of being told that our concerns don’t matter because they aren’t your concerns.
We’re tired of being erased from breastfeeding/birth/parenting literature and images.
We’re tired of your failure to recognize the role history has played in the present state of all of our lives.
We’re tired of your assumption that being “colorblind” is a positive trait.
We’re tired of constantly having to justify the centering of our issues when we’ve been marginalized.
POC involved in breastfeeding/birth/natural parenting causes set up their own spaces because we tend to be erased, minimized, and silenced in mainstream spaces. We shouldn’t ever have to apologize or feel guilty for filling gaps or tending to our own needs.
How fair is it that we get accused of being exclusionary by people who tend to exclude us in the first place?
So, Waah-Waah Brigade, you can shut it.