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That Little Thing

Welcome to the May Carnival of Natural Parenting: Role model

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama. This month our participants have waxed poetic about how their parenting has inspired others, or how others have inspired them. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.


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I am conflict-averse, particularly when it comes to the internet. I understand that some of my parenting beliefs diverge from the mainstream and might arouse debate. This is why I generally keep my more controversial opinions to myself unless I know my audience is receptive. So when I recently posted a pro-intactivism message on my Facebook status, I did so with trepidation.

Would I be heckled? Would I receive jeers? Would someone call me offensive and de-friend me?

I mulled over the possibilities.

The post remained largely ignored on my Wall.

Then I received a response from a friend from my undergraduate days.

The simple note said, “Thank you for the information. I had no idea.”

Later I found out that she had a discussion with her fiance about not circumcising any future sons. She also got others in her immediate social circle talking about it too.

I have no idea how many people paid attention to that Facebook status. I have no idea how many dismissed it or were offended by it. I do know that my seemingly tiny act caused a ripple effect of education and action.

So I guess it’s true — the little things do count.


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Guest Blogging Again

"Intact America"

One of the things I’ve never mentioned on this blog is that Baby E is intact.

Intact? Is that one of your feminist hippie-isms?

Intact means that he has not been circumcised. This is intentional on my part. It’s a controversial choice in the United States and there are usually a lot of myths used to support infant male circumcision. As obvious as it now seems that keeping my son intact is the ethical choice, I did not travel a straightforward journey to making that choice.

Today, Lauren at Hobo Mama has graciously published a piece I’ve written about my journey to keeping Baby E intact. So check it out, leave (nice) comments and browse around the rest of her blog.

If you want to learn about why keeping our infant sons intact is a good choice, check out this page and this page.

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