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Soapbox Sunday — Parenting Insights

Light bulb moment!

Raise your hand if you were very sure what kind of parent you were going to be before you had kids?

Raise your hand if you were very sure what kind of parent you were going to be at each stage of your kid’s life beforehand?

I’m raising both hands on both accounts.

One thing I’m learning in this parenting gig is that I’m always learning. I have a core set of values that form the base of my parenting but I’m always fine-tuning them as I go along.

This week’s Soapbox Sunday features some writings that I found insightful about parenting.

BlackGirlinMaine talks about what she’s learned having raised an almost 19 year old and now raising a 5 year old.

Gina, The Feminist Breeder has a message for newer moms who judge other moms who have difficult toddlers — “Just wait!”

Lauren, at Hobo Mama, talks about why she’s not as fabulous a parent as her blog might make her seem and why that’s ok.

Dionna, at CodeName:Mama shares tips for encouraging children to apologize with sincerity instead of forcing them to say sorry.

Darcel at The Mahogany Way talks about the importance of play in her children’s lives.

Sparky of Spark in Darkness has a guest post over at Womanist Musings about the folly of sheltering children from LGBT people.

What kind of parenting insights have you discovered?


Soapbox Sunday: Thanksgiving Edition

Thanksgiving is a holiday that I’m never sure of celebrating. I only participated in Thanksgiving activities once I moved to the US because, well, it’s an irrelevant holiday in Barbados. Even now, I mostly do Thanksgiving because other people in my life are doing it. Still, I do enjoy a nice gathering of family and friends around a dinner table. This year, we went to a friend’s house and had an excellent meal. I even baked desserts!

Today’s Soapbox Sunday list of links (nice alliteration!) will be short and sweet yet, thought-provoking.

Funkidivagirl describes finding thanks on very sad and memorable Thanksgiving Day.

At Love Isn’t Enough, a mom describes how she shifts her family’s Thanksgiving ritual so that the true history of Thanksgiving is honored.

Black Girl in Maine gives her very thoughtful insights on the intersecting of class privilege and Black Friday.

Similarly, Arwyn at Raising My Boychick gives her thoughts on “Black Friday, Small Business Saturday and the discomfit of classism.”

What are your Thanksgiving thoughts?

I'm oh so thankful for this child


Soapbox Sunday: For Colored Moms

cover of the 1980 Bantam edition

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It’s been a while since I’ve done a Soapbox Sunday post. What can I say? I kind of got burned out on daily blog and article reading and let the unread posts on my feed reader pile up. I’ve finally gotten through them all (with some unfortunate skimming and deleting), so I’m back.

As you may have guessed, the title of this post is a call out to the recently released movie, For Colored Girls. I haven’t seen it yet, but I have a lot of love for the original choreopoem For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow is Enuf by Ntozake Shange. However, when it comes to Tyler Perry films my default level of excitement is permanently set to “Meh.”  I currently view his attempt to bring Shange’s work to the big screen with a cautious side-eye. Nevertheless, I do plan to see the film and I’m somewhat comforted by the fact that while the reviews are mixed, even some diehard Tyler Perry haters have given it their seal of approval.

So, thanks to Tyler Perry, colored girls are all the buzz this week. At the same time, thanks to Erica Jong, motherhood is all the buzz this week too (Great response here, by the way). So, I figured why not combine the two and post links all about and or by moms of color.  Despite what the predominant narratives might insist, moms of color are more than just disadvantaged, downtrodden, overly harsh, freeloading, anchor-baby-dropping procreators.

Renee at Womanist Musings shares this story of mothers mobilizing to save a school building.

Black Girl in Maine talks about Raising Black and Brown Babies.

Over at My Brown Baby, Denene discusses the stereotyping of parents of color on the playground. Denene’s regular guest blogger, Bassey Ikpi talks about her experience with depression during pregnancy and her recent knee-jerk reaction to her son requesting a white Barbie.

Finally, Jen at Baby Making Machine learns that just because it says “flush” on the diaper insert package doesn’t mean you should.

So, have you read For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow is Enuf or seen the movie, For Colored Girls? If so, what did you think?

Also, what good posts or articles have you come across recently?

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